-- Text of Tueday's morning chapel --
I am working at home, daughter sees I ‘m on Facebook and says
”Dad, I ‘m better than you.”
"I have more friends - and your friends are not real friends, only colleagues from work"
How do we determine a person’s value? By the number of “friends” (or: contacts on Facebook)? Instead of Facebook friends, you can also insert other things: the house you built, the job you got, the money that you earn, or your friends in real life.
A second scene: My daughter uploaded a new profile picture in a social network.
After uploading she prompted her friends for comments. Within minutes, she received feedback. Fortunately, it was a lot of positive comments.
I know that teenagers need feedback by their peer group. The internet is sometimes brutal an sometimes brutally honest. What would have happened if my daughter had not gotten any feedback at all? Would she view herself a “victim”? Would she have lost her value?
But it is not only young people who are affected by social networks
A colleague joined Facebook. After I confirmed his fiend request, Facebook displayed a message on my screen: “N.N. has 3 friends only - help him find more friends.”
Such a looser, I thought and then I started to realize what I just had done in my mind.